I wish I could share some happiness about my dad, but there’s been no change. Still no contact with him. I’ve sent him cards and my daughter has, too, but no response.
I sent him another card last Sunday with some photos. When my dad was in the Navy, he’d sent a photo to his sister Helen. Helen is now in a home (Alzheimer's/dementia) and when my cousin Chito (Helen’s son) was packing up her home, he found the photo and sent it to me.
It’s about 3ft long, a formal photo of a large group, maybe his ship’s crew? It was still in the original mailing tube, stamps and all. I took several photos, including a close-up of my dad. (It took me 3 days with a magnifying glass to find him in the photo.)
I don’t have any expectations that my dad will respond, but I’m OK with me still reaching out to him nonetheless. I can love him without being loved in return. It still hurts to not have contact with him, but I can still love him.
We’re taught to love as the Divine loves, unconditionally. Not “I’ll only love you if you love me the way that I want you to.” Just “I love.”
(Dad is in the 2nd row from top, middle, darker man to his right)