Monday, December 20, 2010

Of Advent, anticipation and acceptance

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Advent is a time of joyful anticipation, a space to slow down, prepare, go within and examine our hearts and souls, finding a home in our hearts for the spirit of the season; for many of us, for the love of a Savior, a new King. In the midst of holiday hustle and bustle, shopping, decorating, baking, parties, it can be hard to consider Advent being a slowing down time. I used to get caught up in all the chaos until I started focusing on the Advent aspect of this time of year. Eventually, I learned to plan and organize so that I can slow down during Advent. My trick? I take the week off after Thanksgiving, do my shopping (mostly online), write out my cards, do my holiday decorating and spend time preparing my inner life while the outer life around me buzzes with Black Fridays and Cyber Mondays, extended shopping hours, sweater sales and people frantically trying to find the perfect toy. That week allows me to get things done and frees up my time for the rest of the season so I can be more thoughtful, less hurried, more prepared. I remove myself from all the holiday chaos, intentionally, purposefully, planfully.

And that was the plan this year. I took the week off – and promptly became very ill the day after Thanksgiving. I was sick with fever, sweat, chills, nausea – oh, so sick! I lost 14.5 lbs in 4 days. I did manage to get the online shopping done toward the and of the week, but the cards didn’t get mailed, the decorating didn’t get done and three weeks later, I’m still recovering, with a lingering cough and an uncertain tummy.

Life happens and we have to adapt and adjust our plans accordingly, trusting that everything will turn out the way that it’s supposed to. I think of a young girl betrothed to be married, making her plans to become a wife. But all the plans change when her entire world is tossed upside down by the appearance of an angel with a remarkable, fantastical story. I think of a carpenter, betrothed to a girl who we understand to be faith-filled, good and virtuous. Then plans change when he is told that this good girl is pregnant—and not by him, which, according to the laws of the day, could result in her being stoned as punishment. Instead of having her stoned for her betrayal, he decides to quietly divorce her. But plans change again (another angel!) and he takes her as his wife. The lives that they had planned together took a wild, unexpected, unplanned detour. Yet with deep faith they trusted that everything would turn out the way it was supposed to turn out in some unknown way.

120809 advent candles close-upFaith is not rigid, unyielding. Faith requires flexibility, an adaptive spirit, the ability to go with the flow. Faith requires accepting the possibility of change, that things may not go the way we’d planned. We can’t stay attached to the plans when circumstances change; rigid attachment creates misery and unhappiness. We have to release our expectations and be flexible to whatever comes up.

Although I didn’t accomplish all I wanted to during my vacation week, I did slow down during Advent nonetheless, editing my plans to suit my changed circumstances, giving up a little in order to gain the peace and calm that nourishes me at Advent. Trusting with deep faith that everything would turn out the way it is supposed to turn out.

I wish you and yours the deep, abiding peace, love and happy joy of the season!




Darla said...

I enjoyed the calm you brought to this post... about space to slow down, faith, and trust. And liked how you related The Story in terms of faith requiring flexibility. Lovely.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Sounds like you had a nasty, nasty flu. Glad you're better again! Wishing you a peaceful and loving Christmas week!

Anonymous said...

Merry Christmas Rose.

This week, we have definitely slowed down. It's been an interesting and fairly active Fall. Jim and I will retreat to the lake as soon as weather permits.

Our Christmas gathering is usually very low key. Everything is ready for our family. Some of the family will stay over.

The meals are simple. Plain meals, in other words. More time for reflection and enjoyment of our grandchildren.

The grandschildren receive gifts. Other than that, no gift exchanging. It's about the celebration.

All the best for 2011!

LauraX said...

sweetie, I'm sorry you were so horribly sick and grateful you are feeling better!

"Faith requires accepting the possibility of change, that things may not go the way we’d planned." so eloquently expressed dear one.

may your Christmas and all of your days be filled with faith and the peace and blessings that flow from a flexible, faith filled life.

Rose - The Center of My Self said...

Thank you so much, Darla!
Deb - Yup, sicker than I've been in a long time. Merry Christmas!
Pat - You truly know how to slow down and enjoy each precious moment with those you love. Enjoy the holiday with your beautiful family!
Laura - You must know you came to mind while I wrote this; you are a teacher and guide to me, dear Laura. Blessings and joy to you and yours!